That must sound weird and abnormal if you’re an Indian! Because everywhere I go these days, people only ask me why am I not married yet. Is it such a disgrace to not be married in your 30’s? The short answer is – NO, don’t ever let yourself think that.
When in my 20s, I thought I would be settled before I step into my 30s because that’s what most people were doing. That’s what I grew up seeing. But life is full of surprises! And what you want or think, seldom happens. A series of events happened and I was almost convinced there were more things to do than just get married. I started to work hard, really hard! I joined a startup, moved to new cities and traveled so much. Ah, traveling is so therapeutic. It can change your whole world, you learn so much about yourself and those memories you’re making – that time won’t come back! So I continued to live this life and here I am – 31 and NOT MARRIED. Yes, so what? I am happy. Very happy. Surviving and going strong. So aunties and uncles – stop making it sound like its the weirdest thing to do and that I am abnormal. I am very much fine. So don’t ruin this for me. Everything happens when the time is right.
In no way am I implying marriage is a bad thing. It’s NOT! It’s holy, it’s beautiful and certainly one of the best things to happen to you. But it’s not the only thing. It is not a norm. You need to follow your heart and do it when the time is right. There is really no “right” time or your biological clock isn’t ticking so fast that you need to rush into it. Should I just rush into it? Should I take a decision to please the society or folks in my building and my relatives? That would just be wrong.
Also one observation – In my 20s I knew what I wanted but didn’t know what I don’t want. In the 30s, that changes. You know exactly what you don’t want – which I think is so important when it comes to choosing a life partner.
So boys and girls – just relax! Because 30s is the new 20s (this quote just makes me too happy). Single is not a status. It is a word that best describes a person who is strong enough to live and enjoy life without depending on others.